Yes, I still struggle with this all the time. I want to use my "meat world" name when writing, because, well, I'm proud of my writing. I want to share it with my friends, and put it on resumes. I want to write about the things i know from the meat world, mostly from my job as an attorney.
But I'm just too scared. One thing I'm sure you've experienced having a stalker is that law enforcement will simply not do anything, and platforms like WordPress (where my tormenter was) will also do nothing. So we have to go into hiding.