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Two Things You Need to Know About the Before and After of Abortions
Information you need that no one tells you about abortions.
When I was forty-four years old, I got knocked up by accident. M and I were careless because we bought into the myth that women over forty have a better chance of getting struck by lightning than getting pregnant. Turns out, that’s not true. And a few months later, my friend J, who was also in her forties, got pregnant even though she had an IUD. Those fertility stats really need some tweaking.
I ultimately had an abortion and so did J. After my procedure and helping J through hers, I realized there are two simple but important things no one tells you about the process. The lack of information isn’t surprising; the stigma around abortions is still firmly entrenched, and even female-centered media fails to provide simple information. Abortions are like cops, everyone hates them until you need one.
I wish that someone had told me these things, so I’m here to tell you.
1. Try Not to Canvas Your Friends for Advice
If you find yourself pregnant and can’t decide what to do, try your best not to ask your friends or family for advice. I realize this is counterintuitive. But people can rarely separate their own…
