…mphasize personality-based explanations for others’ behavior, and de-emphasize the role of context. Thus, in judging my behavior in those early days, people ignored the fact that I was alone, 3000 miles from home, my roommate had just been murdered, and the killer was on the loose. It was a scary and traumatizing experience, and people react in many ways to trauma. Instead, people often strip my behavior from this context and conclude that I must be weird, off, or suspicious.
Absolutely. I’ve read quite a bit about your case, in part because I also studied in Italy, and I wanted to tear my hair out when I saw commentary like this. The idea that we have a consensus on what constitutes “normal” behavior during trauma is preposterous.
I learned a lot from the rest of this article, so thank you for that.