PinnedMember-onlyNotes on Our Collective Mental BreakdownWe need help. — I don’t think it’s up for debate that we are in the midst of a collective mental breakdown. If there were any lingering doubt, the photos of Will Smith dancing at Oscar parties after he assaulted Chris Rock has removed it. Did Will’s publicist just walk off the job? Probably…Psychology6 min readPsychology6 min read
Published in Human Parts·PinnedMember-onlyA List of Mistakes, in No Particular OrderThere are a lot — It was a mistake to sell my apartment in Brooklyn. It was a mistake to come back to Los Angeles for a boy. It was a mistake not to swim through a magical underwater tunnel in Kauai, that led to a cylinder-like rock formation with a ceiling to the sky…Psychology5 min readPsychology5 min read
Published in Human Parts·PinnedMember-onlyHow to Become a Bed Creature™This is the life hacks of all life hacks — I hate it when people give unsolicited advice. For instance, yesterday an old friend walked into my house for the first time, and told me to get rid of all my books because they made the place looked cluttered. “You really like books, huh?” she said, staring at a small…Self7 min readSelf7 min read
Published in Human Parts·PinnedMember-onlySchrödinger’s LonelinessI’m lonely but I’m also not — Wikipedia explains that Schrödinger’s Cat “is a thought experiment that illustrates a paradox of quantum superposition. In the thought experiment, a hypothetical cat may be considered simultaneously both alive and dead as a result of its fate being linked to a random subatomic event that may or may not occur.”…Psychology7 min readPsychology7 min read
Published in Sybarite·Jan 15The Sybarite Newsletter, Issue TwoA round up of small pleasures — Welcome to the second installment of The Sybarite Newsletter, where I write about small pleasures in the hopes that they will distract us from…everything. I was about to type “from the ongoing dystopian hellscape” but frankly that doesn’t feel true anymore. Not sure why? …Food10 min readFood10 min read
Published in Sybarite·Jan 3Member-onlyThe Sybarite Newsletter, Issue OneA round-up of small pleasures — Greetings and Happy New Year from the Sybarite-in-Chief. Over here at Sybarite we (and by that I mean “I” because I/we don’t have staff yet, but I/we someday will) have decided that 2023 should be — no, will be — devoted to fun and pleasure, because by certain metrics we…Lifestyle10 min readLifestyle10 min read
Dec 30, 2022Member-onlyWhen is my Ex-Boyfriend Getting Divorced?I’m ready to pounce. — If JLo can do it, so can I is not a thought I have often, or ever really. Her work ethic blows mine out of the water and she also has perfect skin. …Love6 min readLove6 min read
Dec 20, 2022Member-onlyMy Year of Giving Up365 days of whatever. — “Here’s to dying on a ranch together!” This was the last line in a birthday card my friend M sent me this week. The card had a kitten on it barfing up a rainbow, and it made me happy because it confirmed that I’m not the only woman of a…20228 min read20228 min read
Published in Sybarite·Dec 9, 2022Member-onlyPlease Help my Publication About Absolutely Nothing ThriveLet’s flood the Internet with meaningless frivolity. — Recently Tony Stubblebine wrote that Medium wants to elevate publications, which made me happy and sad at the same time. Happy, because I have a very cool publication, called Sybarite. Sad, because I let Sybarite slowly die after one or two confusing formatting debacles. Rather than push through and try…Writing6 min readWriting6 min read
Dec 4, 2022Member-onlyHow Are You Supposed to Make Decisions?How does Present Me know what Future Me wants? — My favorite movie scene is this one, in which Robin Williams plays a refugee from the Soviet Union, overwhelmed by the amount of coffee choices in an American supermarket. My other favorite movie scene is this one, in which Donald Sutherland plays an art dealer mesmerized by the artwork in…Abortion10 min readAbortion10 min read
